So here I am, experiencing this, er, “surge” and with no anniversaries on the horizon to celebrate with anyone. And, as I mentioned, I’m not in my twenties anymore, and don’t really feel like going to one of those gross meat-market bars in the hopes of picking up a random Arkansas stray.
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Because here’s the thing…you don’t reach this point in your life and kid yourself that there’s not something kinda great about sex plus connection. Yes, NSA Arkansas sex is fun (and can certainly scratch an itch), but there comes a point when a backpage lady knows how nice it can be to not only have a partner who wants to bone you, but who also wants to talk to you afterwards. And perhaps wants to be seen in public with you. (Or vice versa, whom you’d like to be seen in public with.)
And I’m at the point where I can’t decide if I want to hold out for that again or not.
Which is also a problem, since I desperately need to NOT jump right into another relationship. I mean, right? That’s what all the books tell me, at least…I should really enjoy this time of freedom, of quiet, of being single, dating around for fun, to be happy just being me.
And you know? I want to call bullshit on this one, because I am generally happy being me, both in and out of a relationship. It just that now, I like being me AND I want to get laid regularly. Is it really so much to ask?
So I guess that’s the eternal conundrum. I don’t know that there’s answer or a quick fix. And what may work for one person (e.g. a good old roll in the hay with an Arkansas FWB) may not work for another (e.g. a lifetime membership reward card at the local sex shop).
What I do know is that sometimes our simplicity as backpage humans can be very complicated. We all have basic needs, wants and desires. Some of these needs can be met easily. It’s not so hard when you’re hungry to go grab a sandwich. When you need sleep, you take a nap. But the basic human need of backpage dating?
Well, maybe I’ll have it all figured out by next Valentine’s Day.